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Romantic ideas

IT IS IMPORTANT for husband and wife to have fun together…

What do you do for “play time”?  Do you spend your recreational time together or doing your own thing?  There is nothing wrong with having some activities that you do separately; however, there is something wrong with doing nothing fun together.  You need to develop a list of activities that both of you would enjoy doing together.  Once this is completed, sit down (knee-to-knee) and go over the lists.  Then develop a final list of the things both of you have agreed to try together.

Date ideas:

1.  Put on some of your favorite music and work a jigsaw puzzle together.
2.  Rent a movie and pop popcorn.
3.  Take a walk hand-in-hand.
4.  Recreate your first date or when your proposed.
5.  Go to a local high school sporting event.

Romantic ideas:

1.  Pull out old love letters and read them to each other.
2.  Sit by the fire.
3.  Leave a chocolate kiss on his or her pillow.
4.  Kiss for a full minute.
5.  Give her a hug, and don’t let go.  (For more ideas, look for Debbie L. Cherry’s book, “Discovering the Treasure of Marriage”).

“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”  Luke 12:34

Mike Benson

Where has the romance gone?

REMEMBER WHEN YOU were dating and romance seemed to be everywhere…?

Whatever happened to that?  For most  couples romance takes a nose dive shortly after marriage.  The focus moves away from wining and dining to eating and sleeping.  We are confident that we have “caught” him or her and proven to him or her that we care.  Then we slack off.  How is our spouse to take that feeling of being treasured from dating into marriage if we don’t continue the behavior that made him or her feel that way?  And even if you weren’t a “Casanova” during dating, why not learn to be one now?  Treasuring your spouse includes being romantic.

Romance involves proving you think about your spouse when you are not together and showing it when you are together.  It involves taking time out of busy schedules to make each other feel loved, cared about, important, and special.  It means taking the ordinary (dinner or walk) and making it extraordinary (candlelit dinner or walk in the moonlight).  Through romantic gestures you tell your spouse that he or she is the one and only one for you and worth the extra effort.

Never forget the importance of dating your spouse.  This may seem elementary, but you might be surprised (or maybe not) how many couples don’t date anymore.  Or, if they do, it is only once or twice a year for special occasions.  If you want your relationship to thrive and your spouse to feel treasured, you must spend quality couple time together.  Debbie L. Cherry

“My lover is mine and I am his.”  Song of Solomon 2:16

–Mike Benson