How to Love Noisy Children

One of the difficulties of a growing congregation is the influx of young children. Children are naturally energetic and, without proper training, can become problematic for members trying to worship in the services. We must be very careful, though, when discussing how to handle this difficulty so that we behave in such a way that God will be pleased with our actions. This article will attempt to provide solutions to this problem under the umbrella of the two greatest commandments (Mark 12:30-31Mark 12:30-31
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30 And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. 31 And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.  

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How can the upset member deal with someone else’s noisy child?

1) Remind yourself of the love you have for that child.

We don’t sing “Jesus loves the little children” for no reason. The disciples of Jesus may have felt some of the same frustration you are feeling when seeing a multitude of children headed for Jesus–that same Jesus who held the words of eternal life (John 6:68John 6:68
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68 Then Simon Peter answered him, Lord, to whom shall we go? thou hast the words of eternal life.  

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)! The adults of the time would have been able to listen more fully without those energetic children around; and yet, Jesus rebuked his disciples for trying to send them away (Matthew 19:13-14Matthew 19:13-14
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13 Then were there brought unto him little children, that he should put his hands on them, and pray: and the disciples rebuked them. 14 But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.  

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). Those beautiful children are the future of the Church. They need to be nurtured in the assembly, not forbidden from it.

2) Remind yourself of the love you have for the parents.

Rearing a child up in the “training and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4Ephesians 6:4
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4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.  

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) is a tall order. No one said it was going to be easy. At times, it can feel like a real burden. Part of loving each other is to “bear one another’s burdens” (Galatians 6:2Galatians 6:2
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2 Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.  

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). That means, at times, that you may be inconvenienced because of someone else’s children–and you’ve got to be okay with that. It is important for those parents, as much as anyone else, to be in the worship assembly to be encouraged (Hebrews 10:24-25Hebrews 10:24-25
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24 And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: 25 Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.  

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), not criticized for things over which they have no control. Kids make noise.

3) Use the distraction of a noisy child as an opportunity to grow.

Mothers get used to the random sounds that children make. In a lot of ways, they have learned to tune them out in order to focus on things that are more important. People who do not have children, or have not had children in the home for some time, tend to notice the noise a lot sooner than the parents, who are focused on listening to the lesson. If they can do it, so can you. Your soul is ultimately your own responsibility (Philippians 2:12Philippians 2:12
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12 Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.  

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). You have to train yourself to ignore the distractions which may pull you away from your path to heaven (1 Corinthians 10:131 Corinthians 10:13
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13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. common...: or, moderate  

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; Mark 4:1-20Mark 4:1-20
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4 1 And he began again to teach by the sea side: and there was gathered unto him a great multitude, so that he entered into a ship, and sat in the sea; and the whole multitude was by the sea on the land. 2 And he taught them many things by parables, and said unto them in his doctrine, 3 Hearken; Behold, there went out a sower to sow: 4 And it came to pass, as he sowed, some fell by the way side, and the fowls of the air came and devoured it up. 5 And some fell on stony ground, where it had not much earth; and immediately it sprang up, because it had no depth of earth: 6 But when the sun was up, it was scorched; and because it had no root, it withered away. 7 And some fell among thorns, and the thorns grew up, and choked it, and it yielded no fruit. 8 And other fell on good ground, and did yield fruit that sprang up and increased; and brought forth, some thirty, and some sixty, and some an hundred. 9 And he said unto them, He that hath ears to hear, let him hear. 10 And when he was alone, they that were about him with the twelve asked of him the parable. 11 And he said unto them, Unto you it is given to know the mystery of the kingdom of God: but unto them that are without, all these things are done in parables: 12 That seeing they may see, and not perceive; and hearing they may hear, and not understand; lest at any time they should be converted, and their sins should be forgiven them. 13 And he said unto them, Know ye not this parable? and how then will ye know all parables? 14 The sower soweth the word. 15 And these are they by the way side, where the word is sown; but when they have heard, Satan cometh immediately, and taketh away the word that was sown in their hearts. 16 And these are they likewise which are sown on stony ground; who, when they have heard the word, immediately receive it with gladness; 17 And have no root in themselves, and so endure but for a time: afterward, when affliction or persecution ariseth for the word's sake, immediately they are offended. offended: or, stumbled, or, caused to fall into sin 18 And these are they which are sown among thorns; such as hear the word, 19 And the cares of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, and the lusts of other things entering in, choke the word, and it becometh unfruitful. lusts: or, inordinate desires 20 And these are they which are sown on good ground; such as hear the word, and receive it, and bring forth fruit, some thirtyfold, some sixty, and some an hundred.  

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How can parents deal with members who are upset by their noisy children?

1) Remind yourself of the love you have for that member.

It can be very frustrating balancing the need for our own spirituality, the training up of children, and our need to help others grow around us. It is a constant battle; but, it is a battle that we must not surrender (Revelation 2:10Revelation 2:10
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10 Fear none of those things which thou shalt suffer: behold, the devil shall cast some of you into prison, that ye may be tried; and ye shall have tribulation ten days: be thou faithful unto death, and I will give thee a crown of life.  

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). In our battle to survive, we cannot let ourselves become a stumbling block to another brother or sister in Christ (Romans 14:13-23Romans 14:13-23
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13 Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother's way. 14 I know, and am persuaded by the Lord Jesus, that there is nothing unclean of itself: but to him that esteemeth any thing to be unclean, to him it is unclean. unclean: Gr. common 15 But if thy brother be grieved with thy meat, now walkest thou not charitably. Destroy not him with thy meat, for whom Christ died. charitably: Gr. according to charity 16 Let not then your good be evil spoken of: 17 For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost. 18 For he that in these things serveth Christ is acceptable to God, and approved of men. 19 Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another. 20 For meat destroy not the work of God. All things indeed are pure; but it is evil for that man who eateth with offence. 21 It is good neither to eat flesh, nor to drink wine, nor any thing whereby thy brother stumbleth, or is offended, or is made weak. 22 Hast thou faith? have it to thyself before God. Happy is he that condemneth not himself in that thing which he alloweth. 23 And he that doubteth is damned if he eat, because he eateth not of faith: for whatsoever is not of faith is sin. doubteth: or, discerneth and putteth a difference between meats damned: or, condemned, or liable to punishment  

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). All of the above arguments I’ve written to the member upset by a noisy child are true; but, you can only control your own actions. If taking your child out sooner would help another member to grow, do it (Romans 12:18Romans 12:18
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18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.  

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2) See the difficulties as an opportunity to grow.

If someone comes to you about your children being a distraction to them, instead of getting defensive, rejoice! First of all, it means a brother who is weak in this area is coming to you in a Biblical manner to find help and resolution (Matthew 18:15Matthew 18:15
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15 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.  

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). It is not often easy to go to someone because you don’t like something they are doing. Whether it is a ‘matter of doctrine’ or the color of the carpet–we don’t like confrontation in the church! Unfortunately, it is through trial and tribulation that we not only grow individually, but also collectively, closer to God and each other (James 1:2-12James 1:2-12
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2 My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; temptation: or, trials 3 Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. 4 But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing. 5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. 6 But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. 7 For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord. 8 A double minded man is unstable in all his ways. 9 Let the brother of low degree rejoice in that he is exalted: rejoice: or, glory 10 But the rich, in that he is made low: because as the flower of the grass he shall pass away. 11 For the sun is no sooner risen with a burning heat, but it withereth the grass, and the flower thereof falleth, and the grace of the fashion of it perisheth: so also shall the rich man fade away in his ways. 12 Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him.  

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“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires…. Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.” – James 1:19-20,26James 1:19-20,26
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19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: 20 For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God. 26 If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man's religion is vain.  

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-Tricia Reno

One thought on “How to Love Noisy Children

  1. 🙂 I can telll you are a mom. You understand the need of being longsuffering.

    Likely the hardest part of dealing with noisy or figity children is during the Lord’s Supper. 1 Corinthians 11:23-29 clearly tells us we must remember Jesus–i.e. think on the Lord’s body as we partake of the bread and the fruit of the vine. It might be hard to do if children distract us.

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