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From now on I want you to know I am the man of this house and my word is law!

THE HEAD OF THE WIFE

A husband had just finished reading the book “Man Of The House” while making his commute home from work.

When he arrived home, he stormed into the house and walked directly up to his wife.  Pointing his finger in her face, he said, “From now on I want you to know that I am the man of this house and my word is law!  You are to prepare me a gourmet meal tonight, and when I’m finished eating my meal, I expect a sumptuous dessert afterward. Then, after dinner, you’re going to draw my bath so I can relax.  And when I’m finished with my bath, guess who’s going to dress me and comb my hair?”

His wife thought for a moment and responded, “The Funeral Director is my guess.”

Unfortunately, many husbands have the mistaken idea that that’s what it means to be “the head of the wife” — give orders and sit back, ready to be waited on hand and foot.  Paul, though, gave a completely different picture:

“For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior…. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Eph. 5:23,25)

What Paul is saying is that headship is not so much a position of privilege as it is a position of responsibility.  It is not the responsibility of the head to “lord it over” the wife, but rather to take a position of service and sacrifice.  Christ, our head, was willing to humble himself to meet our every need, even to the point of giving up his life.  He serves as the ultimate example to all of us who are husbands.

Just a few questions for you husbands to think about:  What have you given up lately for your wife?  What have you done lately that shows her how much you love her?  Are you more concerned with serving or being served?

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”

Have a great day!

Alan Smith

Plain stupidity and downright irresponsible

Exo 22:10 If a man deliver unto his neighbour an ass, or an ox, or a sheep, or any beast, to keep; and it die, or be hurt, or driven away, no man seeing it.

This is a law regarding trust and responsibility. Suppose a neighbour who is going to be away asks you to keep a donkey or an ox or a sheep or some other animal, and it dies or gets injured or is stolen. The caretaker, or trustee, is liable for the loss. He should be keeping a good watch on the animal entrusted to his safe keeping.

This teaches us that:
1. We ought to be very careful of the thing we are entrusted with. We are to take very good care of it as if it were our own.
2. It is a shame to betray a trust. It tells a lot about one’s character: Irresponsible!
3. The caretaker who has lost his charge has to face the consequence.

What should you do if you were to babysit a child? You just don’t leave him out of your sight; not even for a minute. Just in the news recently, we read of a 3 month old toddler mauled to death by the family pit bulls (three, for that matter) when he was left alone for just five minutes. That’s plain stupidity and downright irresponsible.

Children have fallen from buildings because the persons who were supposed to babysit them left the houses to buy lunch or something else. When interviewed, the reason they gave was that the child was sleeping and so they made a quick dash out of the house to grab something. Apparently, their quick dashes weren’t quick enough to prevent an accident. Irresponsible! Would you get a babysitter for has a bad record for losing her charge?

In 1 Kings 20:35-40, a prophet told a story of how he was entrusted to keep watch of a prisoner of war but then he said to King Ahab: “And as thy servant was busy here and there, he was gone” (1 Kings 20:40). Careless and irresponsible!

Have you been guilty of being an irresponsible person? It is one thing to lose your own thing, perhaps your wallet or handphone; such is also irresponsible. But it is another matter to lose someone else’s thing; it’s irresponsible and untrustworthy.

Think about these two actions:
1. IRRESPONSIBLE – “And he said, I know not: Am I my brother’s keeper?” (Genesis 4:9).
Comment: Is that the way to treat your brother?

2. RESPONSIBLE – “Brethren, if any of you do err from the truth, and one convert him; Let him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way shall save a soul from death, and shall hide a multitude of sins” (James 5:19-20).
Comment: This is the Christian’s way – we are keepers of our brethren. We are responsible for our brethren: “We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves” (Romans 15:1).

Our Lord came to seek and save those who are lost (Luke 19:10). We have a responsibility to every one who has been saved. We are to keep the saved and ensure they remain saved. We do not wish to lose anyone whom Christ has saved.

So, brethren, while we try to save the lost, let us not lose the saved. “But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea” (Matthew 18:6).

In the judgment day, God will ask each and every one of us: “Where is Abel thy brother?” (Genesis 4:9). What will be your answer?

Jimmy Lau
Psa 119:97 Oh how love I thy law! It is my meditation all the day.