OFTEN A GIRL who grows up with little or no affection from her father is set up to be tempted to a greater degree sexually than a girl who receives the right kind of male affection at home…
A girl who did not get the love she needed at home may seek it somewhere else. With no conscience decision on her part, male affection may come to mean security to her. The initial feelings she experiences–even in a bad relationship–are so much better than the emptiness she felt before that she gives in over and over again to the sexual invitations of men she knows she should not associate with.
Telling a girl like this that premarital sex is wrong is like cutting off weeds at ground level. It may alter her behavior for a while, but when those feelings of emptiness and insecurity begin to surface again, she will be drawn to get her needs met the way she always has.
Anyone who has brought up in a home where there was a deficiency of parental love will experience a stronger pull toward certain sins than a person who enjoyed a warm, loving home life…
…Unfortunate circumstances in no way relieve people of the guilt or responsibility of their behavior, but if they can understand the connection between their childhood experiences and their present struggles, [they may] be able to deal with the root of their particular temptation.
As long as men and women seek to gain their sense of significance and self-worth from anything other than God, they will be set up for temptation. Certain people, places, or things will always have an inordinate ability to lure them into sin. Until they change their definition of significance and until they transfer their security to Someone who can give them real security, they will never experience lasting victory in their lives. Charles Stanley in Winning the War Within, 29-30
“Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.” 1 Corinthians 6:18-20; cf., 1 Thess. 4:1-8